You’ve heard the phrase “Appearances can be deceiving”, right? Not only is that absolutely true, but it can also have a big influence on your self-esteem.
Self-esteem is linked with self-confidence which, like most things, is set to be formed by how the outside world sees us.
This does not mean that the way you feel is dictated by what people think of you, but on some level, it really does make a difference.
What is self-esteem, and how does it develop?
Self-esteem is the value and worth we subjectively evaluate ourselves with as a whole. With this definition, we can easily say that the part of ours that we evaluate the hardest is our body image.
It is linked with how we perceive the world and how we think the world perceives us. This means that every little thing that we do regarding boosting our self-esteem is to better our approach to different situations in life.
It’s important to remember that people are not born with any gained level of self-esteem. It’s something that develops with time as a result of our upbringing and social contacts.
A thing that can affect our body image and self-esteem is being raised in an abusive environment, physically or mentally, or being born with a distinct disfigurement or some kind of visible difference from others.
The early years
If a person is subjected to different types of public or domestic psychological or physical assault, it most probably will affect one’s self-esteem.
Even small things like a kid in preschool or kindergarten making fun of another can cause doubt in that young mind.
Our surroundings and the opinion of our social circle, even If we think we don’t get bothered by it, play a huge role in establishing healthy confidence in us.
If a person starts to acknowledge a flaw in the way you look, it is likely that you will start questioning your appearance.
That’s the way we are built, and even if we sometimes say we don’t care about what people think of us, we still soak in that remark.
If we give in to the idea that society and people form the way we feel about ourselves, we have a much harder time accepting who we are and what we look like in a healthy concept.
On the other hand, If we listened to family and friends that wanted to help us when the doubt was only forming, there is a pretty big chance we would know how to handle this kind of dismissive behaviour towards us better.
What our appearance says about us
The way we perceive ourselves is the way we want the world to see us. It’s as simple as that.
We go the extra mile to have a more pleasant effect when we look at ourselves in the mirror most of the time.
But in reality, the thing that matters most for building steady self-esteem is accepting that we are what we are, and we’re perfect like this.
It’s easier said than done, but it’s a simple philosophy to live your life without the stress and pressure of social evaluation.
Things like comparing yourself to other people or not quite seeing your good sides can be dealt with and should be.
Recognizing your own qualities, talents, and abilities is the way to build a stronger relationship with yourself and create stable self-esteem and self-confidence.